Oct 116 Realistic Practices to Help Build Your Healthy Marriage RelationshipRemember. Recall. Revisit. Retrieve. Relive. Reminisce. What comes to mind with those words? Are those things primarily positive or negative? Whether your marriage relationship feels safe and secure or you wonder if you’ll survive one more day, ask this question: What am I willing to do, give, learn, change, or reject to have a healthy relationship with my spouse? Sometimes the sacrifice you might make for your marriage is to release “your way” to discover “our way.” This sacrifice might require death to selfish thoughts and desires. It doesn’t…Marriage3 min readMarriage3 min read
Oct 114 Actions To Be KIND When Talking About Your Husband’s Porn UseJill knew she needed to talk with Todd about his most recent revelation during their counseling session. The counselor warned her about verbally attacking Todd, which was all she wanted to do. Make. Him. Hurt. But how could she be kind? Jill struggled to separate Todd’s choice to watch porn repeatedly with the man who sat…Betrayal4 min readBetrayal4 min read
Oct 113 Positive Choices To Create A New Life After Discovering Your Husband’s Porn UseSE’s blotchy face told the story more than her words. He did it again. After he promised he’d stopped. “I don’t believe him anymore. All he does is lie about using porn. What else has he lied about?” …Marriage4 min readMarriage4 min read
Oct 115 Marriage Choices To Help Survive Porn UseMany women like you ask, “Can my marriage survive my husband’s porn use?” The quick answer is, “Yes.” Dave and I faced this crossroads over 15 years ago. At the time of our crisis, I wasn’t sure we could survive his porn use struggle. Nor was I sure I wanted to. I felt I had biblical grounds to leave the…Marriage4 min readMarriage4 min read
Oct 113 Active Steps To Face Your Fear And Take Emotional ControlWhat is it that draws us to be scared? Scary movies Houses of Horror People or things jumping out at us in a house of mirrors Do we like to be scared or crave the adrenaline rush of surprises? One place I discovered I don’t like to be scared or face fear is in my relationships. And I’ve found I’m not alone. Most women I coach express the same: how do I stop being afraid he’s…Fear5 min readFear5 min read
Sep 153 Practices For A Healthy Love Is Blind Outlook Toward Your HusbandWhere did the phrase love is blind originate? According to Google, it first appeared around 1401 in Chaucer’s The Merchant’s Tale and was later adapted by Plato, Paultus, and William Shakespeare. What do you think when you hear love is blind? I remember seeing couples in my early dating years and wondering what they possibly had in common. What had…Marriage4 min readMarriage4 min read
Sep 153 Positive Ways Choosing “I Still Do” Heals Your Relational StrugglesBilly Joel wrote, “I love you just the way you are.” The song went on to garner several awards and did well for Joel though his marriage to his wife didn’t last. It’s rare to find a popular cultural love song with lyrics that hint at covenant love. What does it feel like to realize your husband would still choose you? Valentine’s Day…Betrayal5 min readBetrayal5 min read
Sep 153 Heart Qualities Of Covenant Love And Why They MatterWhen working for someone else, I have this totally unrealistic expectation that I will do everything perfectly all the time. There are several holes in that expectation: everything, perfect, all the time. The last time this happened, Dave said, “If and when you want to talk about what happened, I…Love6 min readLove6 min read
Sep 153 Simple Ways to Ditch the Drama and Dream MoreShe did it again! How many times do we have to go around this circle? Trish fumed. No matter how many discussions they had with this family member, Trish and Paul found themselves in the same drama. What gives? Why couldn’t they break this cycle? At least, Trish thought, my relationship with Paul feels healthier than it has in years. Paul and Trish had invested…Addiction3 min readAddiction3 min read
Sep 15Who Are You? CSI Isn’t the Only One Who Needs to KnowWho are you? A woman A wife An ex-wife A mom Single woman CEO President Daughter Best-friend to Administrator Teacher Nurse The list goes on and on. And many in our culture point to these external traits as those that define you. A Google search reveals over 300 million articles…Identity3 min readIdentity3 min read
